The extremely, exceedingly, excessively strong-willed child.

I am not sure why I thought there was ANY chance that two of the most stubborn people on this planet (yes, I admit it) would/could ever have a child that did not inherit that propensity.  But I did... and oh how wrong I was.

 My son is the most lovable, kind hearted child I know, but he has also taught me a new level of "head strong" that I had no idea even existed!  Even at two, he knew how to dig his feet in and not budge when he wanted to.  I spent many moments wondering how I was going to get him to listen and follow directions (not to mention apologizing to MY mom and wondering why other moms are spared this stuff until the teenage years!) 

I read a lot of books (Bringing up Boys and The Strong-willed Child, both by Dr. James Dobson, are a must for moms) and I tried A LOT of different tactics, before finally deciding to try a behavior chart.  I have to say, it has changed the way we play this game! 

I looked online and in several stores before settling on this one I found at Teaching Tools.

I liked this particular one because it had some blank labels so we could add our own, and also because it included behaviors and chores, so that it could evolve into a chore chart as he grew older.  

These are the specific ones we are working on right now.  Logan gets to pick out a prize when he earns 20 happy faces, including at least two on a couple key behaviors (listening the first time and showing respect).  Some he gets every day no problem, which I think is a good thing, since no matter what, he gets some positive reinforcement.  It can take him anywhere from 3 days to a week to earn his 20. To make it fun, I went to Michaels and bought a little box which I painted to look like a treasure chest.  It cost about $8 total and he loves it!

I fill it up with $1 items from target and Michaels.

The chart and treasure box have completely changed the vibe in our house.  I often see Logan start to misbehave, and then stop himself and say things like "no, I need to show respect."  Its amazing!  When he picks a prize out he often even plans ahead, picking out which prize he is going for next, which motivates him to earn the next 20.

I am not saying he is perfect, but the chart has helped him understand what is expected of him, and that good behavior is rewarded. It makes it much easier for everyone to stay focused on the positive. I think that every household with children can benefit from this tool.